September 7, 2008
On Reading: Books and Tears
When I tucked in my son, Camden (age 9), the other night, I could tell something was wrong. His eyes looked everywhere but at mine, he wasn't his usual chatty self, and his book was propped open to a page, though it was clear he was no longer reading it.
With a little motherly prodding, I soon discovered that the book he'd been reading had left him sad and a bit more emotional than he likes to be. This is the kid who prides himself on "never crying" when he gets hurt, and the fact that a book could create such an emotional response had him unsettled.
Without giving you the entire plot-line of the Warriors series, I'll give you a little frame of reference. The Warriors is an (incredibly long) series about cats — their clan-life, their society, their struggle for survival in the wild. (I survived reading the first six books aloud with Camden, and then he had to take over from there — while I enjoyed reading with him, there's only so much I can read about clan Gatherings and crowfood and cat battles.) Camden had come to a part of the series where the cats' present home — The Forest — was being destroyed and they all had to move to a new location. The book did turn rather sappy, dwelling on fond memories of their forest home, drawing out long good-byes from the cats…enough to make any devoted tween-age reader sentimental.
Camden, who had experienced his own mixed bag of feelings when we moved to our new home three years ago, was drawn right in to the emotion. And it was bothering him.
"Has a book ever made you really, really sad, Mom?" he asked.
Oh my, yes!
[spoiler alert]
I shared with him some of the many books that have made me cry over the years. Two of the most memorable were:
The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe — I read this book so many times and cried every single time I got to the chapter where Aslan dies. And then I cried even harder when he came back. When we read the Narnia series aloud to Camden a few years ago, I had to hand the book to Chad (my husband) for those chapters, knowing I wouldn't be able to get through them tear-free.
Where the Red Fern Grows — This book I read only once, when I was about 11 or 12. But I sobbed — sobbed — at the end. It made such an impression on me; I can't remember ever crying so hard over a book before or since. Granted, I was a young girl, and a dog-loving young girl at that, and it didn't take much to push my emotional buttons.
Camden enjoyed hearing about my own reading-induced tears and appreciated knowing that he wasn't the only one so affected by books. Then he asked me, "Did you still like those books, even though they made you cry?"
I guess he thought that, in an attempt to avoid sadness, I would immediately classify those books as: Avoid At All Costs.
But it's quite the opposite. I wouldn't have cried while reading those, or any, books unless I cared for the characters, unless I'd been drawn completely into the story world and felt fully invested in what was happening. So surprisingly — to Camden, at least — the books that made me cry were probably some of my favorites. Not because they made me cry. But rather, I only cried because I liked them so much.
In my old age (ha-ha), I now rarely cry when I read fiction. It still happens occasionally, but I'm more likely to be moved to tears when reading non-fiction — a well-crafted account of sacrifice, honor, or redemption. The principle still holds true, though: it's the books where I am drawn in, captivated by characters and story alike, that touch my heart the most profoundly.
Has a book ever made you cry?
Katrina blogs at Callapidder Days, which she hosts the Spring Reading Thing, and the Fall into Reading Challenge, which will start this month.
Filed under Children's Books, Guest Contributor, On Reading, ages 9 - 12 by 5 Minutes for Books




















